Me matrimony be done fer, left t' rot like a scurvy dog come Christmas. But fear not, me tale ain't done yet!
2023-12-22
Avast ye, matey! Since me divorce, I've been sailin' me ship through unfamiliar waters, aye! Aye, it be a mighty peculiar feelin', like a scurvy dog left stranded, all marred and cast off by the crew. Arrr, tis a lonely voyage, indeed!
Discarded. It’s a word often used by women whose marriages have ended. The author also felt discarded after her own marriage ended. As the Christmas season approaches, she knows that newly divorced women and single moms will feel especially discarded during the holidays. The feeling of being discarded and disregarded can be felt in small moments, like not receiving invitations to parties you used to attend with your spouse or when your children are included in events with your former in-laws while you are left alone at home. Feeling discarded is painful, especially during Christmas when your house is empty and you feel invisible. The author polled divorced women and discovered the harsh and cruel phrases people used that made them feel damaged and abandoned. The feeling of being discarded comes with a cry of injustice. The Bible tells the story of Hagar, a servant girl who was mistreated and discarded but was seen by God. As the author went through her own divorce, she often felt seen by God through reading the Bible, praying, and the love and support of family and friends. She shares a heartwarming story of how a friend's family made her feel seen and loved on Christmas morning with thoughtful gifts. The author wants to remind readers that God sees them, even in their times of feeling discarded and heartbroken, and encourages them to be patient, keep showing up, and be brave and vulnerable.