Avast me hearties! Me heart be filled wit' love fer me lady, but alas, on our weddin' eve, we be realizin' the folly o' our ways!
2024-01-21
Avast! Our love, it be not enough to keep us from reckonin' our matrimony as a mighty blunder. Yet, we sailed on with grit in our souls, so now we be sharin' the tale of our voyage, filled with pardons and mending. Arrr!
In a humorous tone reminiscent of a 17th-century pirate, the author discusses the ups and downs of their marriage. They acknowledge that no marriage is perfect and that theirs certainly wasn't either. For the first 27 years, they engaged in destructive behaviors such as drugs, alcohol, multiple affairs, and failed attempts at self-help. However, they came to a realization that their marriage was not just about themselves but also about their children, grandchildren, and future generations.The author reflects on the beginning of their relationship, admitting that they were deeply in love at first but quickly realized they had made a mistake. They both came from different backgrounds, with the author being selfish and controlling due to a broken childhood, while their partner had grown up with a loving and communicative family. This lack of communication and understanding led to isolation and unhappiness within the marriage.
Over the years, the couple attended multiple counseling sessions, but the author's focus was on fixing their partner rather than themselves. This caused a constant cycle of highs and lows in their marriage, with the author seeking encouragement from outside sources. Despite hitting roadblocks, they persevered, and their spouse's decision to go back to school in 2005 brought about a positive change.
The author admits to their own infidelity and the belief that it was a form of divine retribution. However, when they caught their spouse talking to a past lover, they were ready to give up. Their partner, on the other hand, was determined to make the marriage work and set up counseling. Both individuals committed to the process and turned to God for guidance.
A series of personal tragedies, including a cancer diagnosis and the death of a loved one, brought the author to their knees in prayer. They realized that they needed to take responsibility for themselves, their marriage, and their family. Surrendering to Jesus, reading God's word, and setting boundaries became a turning point in their relationship.
The author concludes by highlighting the thriving state of their marriage and the blessing of their children and grandchildren. They promote their book, "Sex on the First Date," which details their journey of forgiveness and healing, offering tools to help couples in all stages of their relationship. Ultimately, they serve as living proof that a marriage can improve and overcome hardships.